Freedom! You’d be amazed what you SEE when you no longer have something blocking your periphery.
I made the long overdue decision to “cancel” my Facebook account. I say “cancel” because on the final page of the cancellation process it says “to reactivate, simply sign in using your username and password”. So I guess the only thing holding me back from permanent deactivation is that I still remember my username and password.
I did, however, remove the FB app from my phone and the bookmark from my computer toolbar. My biggest problem has been how easy it is to stay signed in 24/7. My phone has almost become an extension of my arm, permanently attached, my eyes glued to the screen. Yesterday I made the comparison between my addiction to screen-time and a bug to a fluorescent bug zapper. And its equally detrimental.
The day that I decided to make this change I posted a status update alerting people to the impending deactivation. Ironically, the majority of the feedback I got was that people wished they had the courage to make that change, but that they were scared of how much harder life would be. They’re too addicted to it to imagine their life without it.
So I issued a challenge. I DARE you to cancel your account and write me a handwritten letter. If you are brave enough to just take that step, I promise your life will not be lacking anything. In fact, taking those blinders off has allowed me to SEE my children more in the last few days than I have in months. Not just because I’m looking at them instead of my phone, but because the things I read and see on Facebook poison my outlook on almost everything. Suddenly my patience isn’t so short and my opinion of myself isn’t so terrible. When you’re not spending all your time comparing your life to everyone else’s, you’d be surprised how great your life looks.
As I’m writing this, I got a phone call. It was from a friend that I see rarely except in my news feed. She said “I went on Facebook to ask you a question but I realized you weren’t there anymore!” I explained the situation and she said “Good for you!” She said she thinks about doing that often. She asked me to help her out with an activity and we set up a date and time. We had a short but nice conversation and now I have plans to be a part of something! How fast that worked.
I’m excited to see how my life changes now. I have no intention of losing touch with the people who mean the most to me, I’ll just have to work a little harder. Who wants to take my dare? Even in this fast paced, technology filled world, its still really nice to get mail. I love the feeling of actual paper.